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It’s the most mysterious zone of relations, which gives trials in the life of both. There are no absolutely cloudless relations, and in our case clouds and even thunderclouds is only a lesson, a mystery which cannot be solved at a stroke. Time passes before the answer is founded, and this time is necessary to change yourself. If there is no understanding in this zone it often breaks relations, that's why patience is its integral part. However, it gives deep stable connection, when the lesson is learnt and the mystery is solved. Possibly, it’s the place there the secret of being together right to the end is hidden. If this zone is strongly manifested in the relations, you’ll feel it like a restraining force which gives no freedom – or as a conscious necessity to act exactly in this way. 


In this description we tried to insert the very essence of Mysterius approach difference from our habitual idea of the compatibility of people, of better halves. Why, when we say “you are my other half”, we also imply “we coincide”. And in what way coincidence is felt? Indeed, as a harmony, eternal and changeless one.
 
However, something goes wrong in real. It’s always easier to say “No, it seems we aren’t made one for the other, it was a mistake”. And we do it, destroying our relations and striving for right and consistent relations from fairytales with 100% compatibility. 

 We’re going to disappoint you – if there would be a couple with only harmony and coincidences – their life would be very boring. 
 It’s like eternal nice weather, for example, the shining sun, which may become hateful at some time.
 It’s like delicious food, which palls because of its sameness. 
 Really meaningful relations include both conflicts and the zone of Development,and Patience Training which is the question. 

'''You’ll feel its presence in your life as unfreedom'''. A sensation of some responsibilities, as you need to do something, to suffer something, to fell uncomfortable like your shoes are small. This zone doesn’t provoke constant conflicts or surges of emotion. It’s like a cold dull day, when it’s raining, grey and murky and all you want is to keep at home, but you need to keep going. I think any passionate couple, even the most enamored one getting rained on again and again is afraid of euphoria, harmony and joy are going to disappear - is that so? Are the relations falling to pieces?..

Curiously enough, but the answer is no. You can be happy when you see this rain. This zone presence in relations is similar to the house buying by means of monthly payments during long period of time. Indeed, it’s like a co-op share fund. It is this zone which gives that cohesion, connectedness of both which is typical for stable couples who have gone through fire and water. You see it when you share the desire to love each other till old age. The proverb "marry first, and love will come afterwards"  implies this zone. It we continue to give analogies, you’ll understand at one point this rainy day waters your garden and then you see flowers. Simply, this moment doesn’t happen at once, and you don’t know in each case what flowers will be after the next rain.

The main thing is they’ll spring without fail. And it’ll be a sensation of warm, which comes into your heart, of self- consciousness due to the fact you tried to understand your partner.


'''How other zones of relations work?'''

[[Coincidences]] - chances, connections, similarities, opportunity to become organic whole or lose yourself.[[Coincidences]] - chances, connections, similarities, opportunity to become organic whole or lose yourself.

[[Harmony]] - joy, enjoyment, affection, help to each other – or couples’ retiring into their shell, laziness and development stagnation.<br />

[[Opposites’ unity]] – each other otherness, which is actually mutual complement.<br />

[[Energy (conflicts and quarrels)]] - quarrels, cold and hot wars - or joint struggle for their own happiness.<br />

[[Development]] – family’s success and each of its members – or break-up resulting from the fact each develops in different directions.


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